Soft Forks make you a follower. Hard Forks make you a Decision-maker.

You can't decide if a Soft fork is activated or not. If the devs put it in and SOMEONE runs it, it is active. Just because you don't see it doesn't mean that it doesn't effect you. The very crafty lie that you decide if you run it or not only helped to cement this narrative.

Now compare that to a Hard fork, where you HAVE TO decide if you run it or not. No dragging along. Hard forks require you to make a decision that everyone sees. If devs put in tail emission and miners don't run it devs fork of with their change. If their change is unpopular and people/miners just don't care, devs fork of with their change...

A Soft fork only dogma is an immense power grab by the devs.